In recent years, Graph Neural Network (GNN) based models have shown promising results in simulating physics of complex systems. However, training dedicated graph network based physics simulators can be costly, as most models are confined to fully supervised training, which requires extensive data generated from traditional physics simulators. To date, how transfer learning could improve the model performance and training efficiency has remained unexplored. In this work, we introduce a pre-training and transfer learning paradigm for graph network simulators. We propose the scalable graph U-net (SGUNET). Incorporating an innovative depth-first search (DFS) pooling, the SGUNET is adaptable to different mesh sizes and resolutions for various simulation tasks. To enable the transfer learning between differently configured SGUNETs, we propose a set of mapping functions to align the parameters between the pre-trained model and the target model. An extra normalization term is also added into the loss to constrain the difference between the pre-trained weights and target model weights for better generalization performance. To pre-train our physics simulator we created a dataset which includes 20,000 physical simulations of randomly selected 3D shapes from the open source A Big CAD (ABC) dataset. We show that our proposed transfer learning methods allow the model to perform even better when fine-tuned with small amounts of training data than when it is trained from scratch with full extensive dataset. On the 2D Deformable Plate benchmark dataset, our pre-trained model fine-tuned on 1/16 of the training data achieved an 11.05\% improvement in position RMSE compared to the model trained from scratch.