Reinforcement learning (RL) presents a promising avenue for enhancing generative recommendation beyond supervised imitation, leveraging reward signals to guide policy improvement. However, its efficacy is critically contingent on the trustworthiness of the reward model for the samples it evaluates. In practice, production rankers, the widely adopted reward models, are trained on exposure-biased logs, leading to sample-dependent inaccuracies that violate this assumption. Our stratified analysis uncovers a consistent pattern: reward guidance is most beneficial when the policy exhibits uncertainty and the ranker can effectively discriminate the ground-truth item from rollout negatives. On other samples, the reward signal is either negligible or detrimental, highlighting the risk of uniform RL application. To address such an issue, we introduce AdaGRPO, a novel framework that treats reward-guided optimization as selective admission rather than uniform pressure. Training is anchored in supervised negative log-likelihood, while the GRPO objective is gated by a binary, per-sample clip determined by two rollout diagnostics: policy-side difficulty and reward discriminability. Instances failing either diagnostic default to pure supervision, ensuring stability and mitigating the amplification of noisy gradients. We validate AdaGRPO on a large-scale e-commerce dataset. At the best intermediate checkpoint, it elevates HR@10 from 11.01% to 12.18% while constraining hallucination below 0.22%, and maintains robustness at the final checkpoint (HR@10 11.63%, hallucination 0.27%), outperforming fixed NLL--GRPO mixtures across the retrieval--validity frontier. In production A/B tests, AdaGRPO achieves statistically significant gains in click-through rate and dwell time, confirming its practical utility.