We generalize the classical nuts and bolts problem to a setting where the input is a collection of $n$ nuts and $m$ bolts, and there is no promise of any matching pairs. It is not allowed to compare a nut directly with a nut or a bolt directly with a bolt, and the goal is to perform the fewest nut-bolt comparisons to discover the partial order between the nuts and bolts. We term this problem \emph{bipartite sorting}. We show that instances of bipartite sorting of the same size exhibit a wide range of complexity, and propose to perform a fine-grained analysis for this problem. We rule out straightforward notions of instance-optimality as being too stringent, and adopt a \emph{neighborhood-based} definition. Our definition may be of independent interest as a unifying lens for instance-optimal algorithms for other static problems existing in literature. This includes problems like sorting (Estivill-Castro and Woods, ACM Comput. Surv. 1992), convex hull (Afshani, Barbay and Chan, JACM 2017), adaptive joins (Demaine, López-Ortiz and Munro, SODA 2000), and the recent concept of universal optimality for graphs (Haeupler, Hladík, Rozhoň, Tarjan and Tětek, 2023). As our main result on bipartite sorting, we give a randomized algorithm that is within a factor of $O(\log ^3 (n+m))$ of being instance-optimal w.h.p., with respect to the neighborhood-based definition. As our second contribution, we generalize bipartite sorting to DAG sorting, when the underlying DAG is not necessarily bipartite. As an unexpected consequence of a simple algorithm for DAG sorting, we rule out a potential lower bound on the widely-studied problem of \emph{sorting with priced information}, posed by (Charikar, Fagin, Guruswami, Kleinberg, Raghavan and Sahai, STOC 2000).