Transformers trained on modular arithmetic exhibit sharp transitions between memorization, generalization, and collapse. We show that weight decay acts as a scalar empirical control parameter for these regimes, and introduce two cheap online diagnostics, mean pairwise attention-head cosine similarity and entropy standard deviation, that track training dynamics from attention activations alone and complement loss-landscape diagnostics at lower compute cost. Across eleven experimental conditions and three model scales (0.82M to 85M parameters), the weight-decay axis separates memorization, developmental grokking, and collapse. A near-transition logistic fit localizes the memorization-to-developmental boundary at $λ_c=0.0158$ (95% CI [0.0109, 0.0200], N=210); a power-law fit gives an empirical exponent $ν=0.757$ (CI [0.725, 0.799]). Reference exponents $ν=1/2$ and 3D Ising $ν\approx 0.63$ lie outside this empirical CI under our four-bin grid, so we report $ν$ as empirical and defer universality-class identification to denser finite-size-scaling work. A horizon-matched multi-task replication (n=280, four modular operations) preserves the weight-decay control pattern; a paired attention-head re-initialization experiment at $λ=0.05$ changes Phase-2 amplitude (Cohen's $d=-1.190$, n=10, $p_t=4.5 \times 10^{-3}$), while matched weight-norm clipping does not. Three cross-architecture probes (4L MLP, 4L LSTM, and 4L Mamba; each n=70) replicate the weight-decay-controlled transition with architecture-specific $λ_c$ values. Main diagnostic claims are scoped to modular arithmetic in small transformer attention models; the non-attention experiments are scope probes, and architecture-wide, language-model, and universality-class claims are out of scope.