Ensuring safe and contextually appropriate behaviour in Large Language Models (LLMs) remains a critical challenge for real-world deployment. We present \textbf{SafeCtrl-RL}, an inference-time behavioural control framework that enables adaptive safety regulation without model retraining or parameter modification. The method formulates dialogue generation as a sequential decision process, where a reinforcement learning agent dynamically selects prompt adjustment strategies based on contextual feedback. This allows unsafe behaviours to be suppressed through iterative refinement, which we conceptualise as inference-time behavioural unlearning. Evaluated across multiple LLMs and unsafe dialogue scenarios, SafeCtrl-RL consistently improves safety and response quality, outperforms existing prompt-based optimisation methods, and achieves favourable performance--efficiency trade-offs. **Warning: This paper may contain examples of harmful language, and reader discretion is recommended.