Semi-supervised learning (SSL) enables prediction with limited labels, but high-stakes tabular applications (medical, credit, recidivism) require statistical fairness guarantees. We identify a structural conflict in tabular fair SSL through a diagnostic stress test: under confidence-gated pseudo-labeling, moment-matching fairness regularizers can trigger two failure modes -- Masking Collapse (fairness erodes confidence, starving pseudo-labels) and Trivial Saturation (drift to constant predictors). We propose Online Primal-Dual Allocation (OPDA), an online controller that schedules fairness and entropy-based stability penalties using violation, risk, and pseudo-label health signals, avoiding per-dataset selection of a fixed fairness weight within this diagnostic regime. On the evaluated tabular benchmarks (Adult, ACSIncome, COMPAS), OPDA mitigates the degenerate regimes observed under static weighting and simple single-signal adaptive baselines. On Adult and COMPAS, it yields non-degenerate operating points competitive with the empirical static-$λ$ frontier; on ACSIncome, it preserves utility with a wider fairness-utility spread. Relative to OPDA-lite, the full controller mainly shifts the operating point toward higher utility on ACSIncome, while Adult highlights the fairness-utility trade-off between the two variants. These results position OPDA as a calibration-free controller for non-degenerate operating points in tabular fair SSL without per-dataset tuning.