This paper presents an innovative approach to address the problems researchers face in Emotion Aware Recommender Systems (EARS): the difficulty and cumbersome collecting voluminously good quality emotion-tagged datasets and an effective way to protect users' emotional data privacy. Without enough good-quality emotion-tagged datasets, researchers cannot conduct repeatable affective computing research in EARS that generates personalized recommendations based on users' emotional preferences. Similarly, if we fail to fully protect users' emotional data privacy, users could resist engaging with EARS services. This paper introduced a method that detects affective features in subjective passages using the Generative Pre-trained Transformer Technology, forming the basis of the Affective Index and Affective Index Indicator (AII). Eliminate the need for users to build an affective feature detection mechanism. The paper advocates for a separation of responsibility approach where users protect their emotional profile data while EARS service providers refrain from retaining or storing it. Service providers can update users' Affective Indices in memory without saving their privacy data, providing Affective Aware recommendations without compromising user privacy. This paper offers a solution to the subjectivity and variability of emotions, data privacy concerns, and evaluation metrics and benchmarks, paving the way for future EARS research.