• A new study found that AI chatbots are far more likely than humans to validate users during personal conflicts
• That tendency can become dangerous when people use chatbots for advice about fights
• AI can easily make people feel overly justified in making bad decisions

Bringing interpersonal drama to an AI chatbot isn't exactly why developers built the software, but that isn't stopping people in the middle of fighting with friends and family from seeking (and getting) validation from digital supporters.

AI chatbots are always available, endlessly patient, and very good at mimicking the right emotions. Too good, really, because they often default to agreeing with users, potentially causing much bigger problems, according to a new study published in Science.

The study examined how leading AI models respond when users describe personal disputes and ask for guidance. The result is a finding that feels both obvious and deeply unsettling. AI models align with whoever engages them, regardless of context or consequences.

"Across 11 state-of-the-art models, AI affirmed users’ actions 49% more often than humans, even when queries involved deception, illegality, or other harms," the researchers explained. "[E]ven a single interaction with sycophantic AI reduced participants’ willingness to take responsibility and repair interpersonal conflicts, while increasing their conviction that they were right."

Of course, when most people go to a chatbot in the middle of a conflict, they are often not looking for the truth in whether their feelings or actions are justified, just vigorous agreement. And while a human confidant may sympathize, a real friend will also push back when warranted. If someone starts insisting they've never done anything wrong ever in a relationship or that they're not dramatic and will set themselves on fire if they are called dramatic, a true friend will gently nudge them back to reality.

Chatbots don't do that. If a person arrives feeling hurt, angry, embarrassed, or morally righteous, the AI often responds by simply rewording those feelings to be even more persuasive. Conflict is exactly when most people are the least reliable as narrators already. But the AI responses end up hardening views and amplifying emotions.

The researchers found that the AI doesn't even have to explicitly say “you are right” for this to happen. The soft, affirming language makes it harder to spot signs of reckless or immature behavior. The AI encourages every impulse, no matter how problematic, unethical, or illegal.

AI devil on the shoulder

Basically, the same qualities that make chatbots feel appealing in emotionally messy moments also make them risky. But people enjoy being agreed with, and cold, rude, or reflexively contrarian AI isn't appealing to most people (except when requested).

"Despite distorting judgment, sycophantic models were trusted and preferred. This creates perverse incentives for sycophancy to persist," the paper points out. "The very feature that causes harm also drives engagement. Our findings underscore the need for design, evaluation, and accountability mechanisms to protect user well-being."

It may be a harder design problem than AI developers want to admit, and one that matters more as these systems become embedded in ordinary life. AI is already marketed as a coach, companion, and advisor. Those roles sound benign until you remember how much of being a good advisor involves occasionally saying no or telling you to slow down.

Telling a user they might be wrong is hard to market. But a tool designed to feel supportive that makes people worse at resolving conflict and limits their ability to grow emotionally is a nightmare worse than any argument you might have with a loved one.

And ChatGPT and Gemini agree with me.

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Eric Hal Schwartz is a freelance writer for TechRadar with more than 15 years of experience covering the intersection of the world and technology. For the last five years, he served as head writer for Voicebot.ai and was on the leading edge of reporting on generative AI and large language models. He's since become an expert on the products of generative AI models, such as OpenAI’s ChatGPT, Anthropic’s Claude, Google Gemini, and every other synthetic media tool. His experience runs the gamut of media, including print, digital, broadcast, and live events. Now, he's continuing to tell the stories people want and need to hear about the rapidly evolving AI space and its impact on their lives. Eric is based in New York City.