Financial institutions must track over 60,000 regulatory events annually, overwhelming manual compliance teams; the industry has paid over USD 300 billion in fines and settlements since the 2008 financial crisis. We present ComplianceNLP, an end-to-end system that automatically monitors regulatory changes, extracts structured obligations, and identifies compliance gaps against institutional policies. The system integrates three components: (1) a knowledge-graph-augmented RAG pipeline grounding generations in a regulatory knowledge graph of 12,847 provisions across SEC, MiFID II, and Basel III; (2) multi-task obligation extraction combining NER, deontic classification, and cross-reference resolution over a shared LEGAL-BERT encoder; and (3) compliance gap analysis that maps obligations to internal policies with severity-aware scoring. On our benchmark, ComplianceNLP achieves 87.7 F1 on gap detection, outperforming GPT-4o+RAG by +3.5 F1, with 94.2% grounding accuracy ($r=0.83$ vs. human judgments) and 83.4 F1 under realistic end-to-end error propagation. Ablations show that knowledge-graph re-ranking contributes the largest marginal gain (+4.6 F1), confirming that structural regulatory knowledge is critical for cross-reference-heavy tasks. Domain-specific knowledge distillation (70B $\to$ 8B) combined with Medusa speculative decoding yields $2.8\times$ inference speedup; regulatory text's low entropy ($H=2.31$ bits vs. $3.87$ general text) produces 91.3% draft-token acceptance rates. In four months of parallel-run deployment processing 9,847 updates at a financial institution, the system achieved 96.0% estimated recall and 90.7% precision, with a $3.1\times$ sustained analyst efficiency gain. We report deployment lessons on trust calibration, GRC integration, and distributional shift monitoring for regulated-domain NLP.