Sensing the direction of arrival and polarization of impinging signals is a key prerequisite for beamforming and interference mitigation in modern wireless communication systems. Dynamic metasurface antennas (DMAs) can multiplex direction- and polarization-dependent field information onto a single detector by sequentially switching between programmable configurations. This makes DMAs attractive for joint direction-of-arrival and polarization (DoA-P) estimation with a single radio-frequency chain. Experimental demonstrations have so far relied on random pre-measured configuration sequences because optimizing the configurations requires an accurate forward model of the fabricated DMA. Here, we use an experimentally calibrated model based on multiport-network theory (MNT) to optimize DMA configuration sequences for DoA-P estimation. Our experimentally calibrated MNT model predicts the dual-polarized far-field response of our 96-element DMA for arbitrary admissible configurations, enabling model-based optimization without additional radiation-pattern measurements. We optimize sequences using effective-rank-based surrogate objectives and compare them with random sequences as a function of the sequence length and the noise level. The optimized sequences yield the largest gains in the intermediate-SNR and intermediate-sequence-length regime, where the inverse problem is neither noise-limited nor already solved by random diversity. We also tackle a dual-source scenario involving a jammer and a desired transmitter. Our results illustrate some of the potential in the context of jamming-resilient communications that is unlocked by experimentally calibrated MNT models for fabricated DMAs.