Let $\bm X=(X_1,...,X_d)$ be a random vector, whose components are not necessarily independent nor are they required to have identical distribution functions $F_1,...,F_d$. Denote by $N_s$ the number of exceedances among $X_1,...,X_d$ above a high threshold $s$. The fragility index, defined by $FI=\lim_{s\nearrow}E(N_s\mid N_s>0)$ if this limit exists, measures the asymptotic stability of the stochastic system $\bm X$ as the threshold increases. The system is called stable if $FI=1$ and fragile otherwise. In this paper we show that the asymptotic conditional distribution of exceedance counts (ACDEC) $p_k=\lim_{s\nearrow}P(N_s=k\mid N_s>0)$, $1\le k\le d$, exists, if the copula of $\bm X$ is in the domain of attraction of a multivariate extreme value distribution, and if $\lim_{s\nearrow}(1-F_i(s))/(1-F_κ(s))=γ_i\in[0,\infty)$ exists for $1\le i\le d$ and some $κ\in{1,...,d}$. This enables the computation of the FI corresponding to $\bm X$ and of the extended FI as well as of the asymptotic distribution of the exceedance cluster length also in that case, where the components of $\bm X$ are not identically distributed.