This paper develops a non-asymptotic approach to mean field approximations for systems of $n$ diffusive particles interacting pairwise. The interaction strengths are not identical, making the particle system non-exchangeable. The marginal law of any subset of particles is compared to a suitably chosen product measure, and we find sharp relative entropy estimates between the two. Building upon prior work of the first author in the exchangeable setting, we use a generalized form of the BBGKY hierarchy to derive a hierarchy of differential inequalities for the relative entropies. Our analysis of this complicated hierarchy exploits an unexpected but crucial connection with first-passage percolation, which lets us bound the marginal entropies in terms of expectations of functionals of this percolation process.