A sequence $(v_1,\ldots ,v_k)$ of vertices in a graph $G$ without isolated vertices is called a total dominating sequence if every vertex $v_i$ in the sequence totally dominates at least one vertex that was not totally dominated by $\{v_1,\ldots , v_{i-1}\}$ and $\{v_1,\ldots ,v_k\}$ is a total dominating set of $G$. The length of a shortest such sequence is the total domination number of G ($γ_t(G)$), while the length of a longest such sequence is the Grundy total domination number of $G$ ($γ_{gr}^t(G)$). In this paper we study graphs with equal total and Grundy total domination number. We characterize bipartite graphs with both total and Grundy total domination number equal to 4, and show that there is no connected chordal graph $G$ with $γ_t(G)=γ_{gr}^t(G)=4$. The main result of the paper is a characterization of regular bipartite graphs with $γ_t(G)=γ_{gr}^t(G)=6$ proved by establishing a surprising correspondence between existence of such graphs and a classical but still open problem of the existence of certain finite projective planes.