We introduce the notion of Bonnet-Myers and Lichnerowicz sharpness in the Ollivier Ricci curvature sense. Our main result is a classification of all self-centered Bonnet-Myers sharp graphs (hypercubes, cocktail party graphs, even-dimensional demi-cubes, Johnson graphs $J(2n,n)$, the Gosset graph and suitable Cartesian products). We also present a purely combinatorial reformulation of this result. We show that Bonnet-Myers sharpness implies Lichnerowicz sharpness. We also relate Bonnet-Myers sharpness to an upper bound of Bakry-Émery $\infty$-curvature, which motivates a generalconjecture about Bakry-Émery $\infty$-curvature.