Many machine learning problems, including similarity learning, ranking, and clustering, rely on empirical pairwise loss functions whose quadratic computational cost quickly becomes prohibitive at scale. We demonstrate how a frugal approach that retains only a fraction of the available information on pairs can achieve estimation or optimization performance comparable to that obtained by using all pairs, by leveraging survey sampling techniques. A central finding, supported by both theory and experiments, is that such sampling plans must target pairs directly rather than individual observations. In particular, for pairwise losses between high-dimensional vectors such as embeddings in vision or graph learning, assigning higher inclusion probabilities to informative pairs using suitable auxiliary information yields performance close to full pairwise evaluation, providing a principled and theoretically grounded trade-off between accuracy and computational cost.