Single-cell ATAC-seq (scATAC-seq) enables high-resolution mapping of chromatin accessibility, yet privacy regulations and data size constraints hinder multi-institutional sharing. Federated learning (FL) offers a privacy-preserving alternative, but faces three fundamental barriers in scATAC-seq analysis: ultra-high dimensionality, extreme sparsity, and severe cross-institutional heterogeneity. We propose FL-Sailer, the first FL framework designed for scATAC-seq data. FL-Sailer integrates two key innovations: (i) adaptive leverage score sampling, which selects biologically interpretable features while reducing dimensionality by 80%, and (ii) an invariant VAE architecture, which disentangles biological signals from technical confounders via mutual information minimization. We provide a convergence guarantee, showing that FL-Sailer converges to an approximate solution of the original high-dimensional problem with bounded error. Extensive experiments on synthetic and real epigenomic datasets demonstrate that FL-Sailer not only enables previously infeasible multi-institutional collaborations but also surpasses centralized methods by leveraging adaptive sampling as an implicit regularizer to suppress technical noise. Our work establishes that federated learning, when tailored to domain-specific challenges, can become a superior paradigm for collaborative epigenomic research.