Fish feeding intensity assessment (FFIA) aims to evaluate fish appetite changes during feeding, which is crucial in industrial aquaculture applications. Existing FFIA methods are limited by their robustness to noise, computational complexity, and the lack of public datasets for developing the models. To address these issues, we first introduce AV-FFIA, a new dataset containing 27,000 labeled audio and video clips that capture different levels of fish feeding intensity. Then, we introduce multi-modal approaches for FFIA by leveraging the models pre-trained on individual modalities and fused with data fusion methods. We perform benchmark studies of these methods on AV-FFIA, and demonstrate the advantages of the multi-modal approach over the single-modality based approach, especially in noisy environments. However, compared to the methods developed for individual modalities, the multimodal approaches may involve higher computational costs due to the need for independent encoders for each modality. To overcome this issue, we further present a novel unified mixed-modality based method for FFIA, termed as U-FFIA. U-FFIA is a single model capable of processing audio, visual, or audio-visual modalities, by leveraging modality dropout during training and knowledge distillation using the models pre-trained with data from single modality. We demonstrate that U-FFIA can achieve performance better than or on par with the state-of-the-art modality-specific FFIA models, with significantly lower computational overhead, enabling robust and efficient FFIA for improved aquaculture management.