Robotic grasping is one of the most fundamental robotic manipulation tasks and has been the subject of extensive research. However, swiftly teaching a robot to grasp a novel target object in clutter remains challenging. This paper attempts to address the challenge by leveraging object attributes that facilitate recognition, grasping, and rapid adaptation to new domains. In this work, we present an end-to-end encoder-decoder network to learn attribute-based robotic grasping with data-efficient adaptation capability. We first pre-train the end-to-end model with a variety of basic objects to learn generic attribute representation for recognition and grasping. Our approach fuses the embeddings of a workspace image and a query text using a gated-attention mechanism and learns to predict instance grasping affordances. To train the joint embedding space of visual and textual attributes, the robot utilizes object persistence before and after grasping. Our model is self-supervised in a simulation that only uses basic objects of various colors and shapes but generalizes to novel objects in new environments. To further facilitate generalization, we propose two adaptation methods, adversarial adaption and one-grasp adaptation. Adversarial adaptation regulates the image encoder using augmented data of unlabeled images, whereas one-grasp adaptation updates the overall end-to-end model using augmented data from one grasp trial. Both adaptation methods are data-efficient and considerably improve instance grasping performance. Experimental results in both simulation and the real world demonstrate that our approach achieves over 81% instance grasping success rate on unknown objects, which outperforms several baselines by large margins.