Shared-nothing architecture has been widely adopted in various commercial distributed RDBMSs. Thanks to the architecture, query can be processed in parallel and accelerated by scaling up the cluster horizontally on demand. In spite of that, load balancing has been a challenging issue in all distributed RDBMSs, including shared-nothing ones, which suffers much from skewed data distribution. In this work, we focus on one of the representative operator, namely Hash Join, and investigate how skewness among the nodes of a cluster will affect the load balance and eventual efficiency of an arbitrary query in shared-nothing RDBMSs. We found that existing Distributed Hash Join (Dist-HJ) solutions may not provide satisfactory performance when a value is skewed in both the probe and build tables. To address that, we propose a novel Dist-HJ solution, namely Partition and Replication (PnR). Although PnR provide the best efficiency in some skewness scenario, our exhaustive experiments over a group of shared-nothing RDBMSs show that there is not a single Dist-HJ solution that wins in all (data skew) scenarios. To this end, we further propose a self-adaptive Dist-HJ solution with a builtin sub-operator cost model that dynamically select the best Dist-HJ implementation strategy at runtime according to the data skew of the target query. We implement the solution in our commercial shared-nothing RDBMSs, namely KaiwuDB (former name ZNBase) and empirical study justifies that the self-adaptive model achieves the best performance comparing to a series of solution adopted in many existing RDBMSs.