In imagining my ideal bachelorette, there was no sash, no tiara, no phallic shot glasses. Sure, a bachelorette trip is a modern pre-wedding rite of passage; but as a 35-year-old, I was seeking tranquility and quality girl time more than I was interested in one last night to get rip-roaring drunk.

With a wedding in New York and lots of West Coast friends (I grew up in the Bay Area), I knew I wanted to host everyone somewhere between our respective locations—meaning Europe, the East Coast, and the Caribbean were all off the table. As an avid hiker and camper, I also knew that I wanted a celebration that would incorporate the outdoors without going fully off the grid. (Let’s just say some of my friends are more nature-loving than others.) Third, with a friend group that includes both pregnancy and recent moms, I wanted it to feel like a respite for everyone, not just a party for me. A few destinations come up frequently in bachelorette group chats: Miami, Nashville, and Austin have earned their reputations as getaway favorites. But Taos, New Mexico? It definitely wasn’t on my radar when I began to imagine what my perfect trip would look like…. until a lucky Airbnb discovery sparked the start of what would become the ultimate girls’ getaway.

Drawing inspiration from Georgia O’Keeffe, who lived in the area for many years of her life, I put together an itinerary that mixed art, culture, nature, and great food. And while there was no bottle service or DJ, we still managed to get a hat-tip from a hot man riding a donkey—if that’s not memory-worthy, I don’t know what is.

Here’s exactly how I planned my ever-so-slightly unconventional bachelorette trip.

The Airbnb

I discovered the sprawling Many Feathers Ranch through my friend Nicole, who covers travel for Vogue. Tucked into a canyon on the outskirts of Taos and owned by fashion designer Raquel Allegra, it’s the sort of property with a peaceful, thoughtfully curated feel that quietly coaxes you into staying in. A moody, candle-lit dining room provided the space for our girls-night-in dinner, all dressed in cozy linen sets.

We luxuriated in the bedrooms, each of which had windows spilling Aspen-dappled light onto plush beds. The plaster, cave-like living room (complete with a cozy fireplace) served as a backdrop for trivia night; the ice-cold creek, which snakes along the five-acre property, was our personal swimming spot to chase off the heat of the day.

The home was the true heart of our getaway; a space for quiet mornings spent journaling, for cooking together, and for squishing onto one of the many couches sprinkled throughout for late-night conversations.

The Itinerary

When I imagined what I wanted the long weekend to be, I opted for a flexible itinerary that gave everyone time to rest, hang, and play beyond our scheduled group plans—all with Georgia O’Keeffe as the loose inspiration.

Thursday

Our morning hike on the Gavilan trail led us up over 10,000 feet, with sweeping views of snow-capped mountains and grassy meadows full of wildflowers—not for the faint of heart, but well worth it. We indulged in a traditional New Mexican lunch of tacos and enchiladas at Orlando’s and walked around Taos, with some of our favorite shops including The Arc, Anewera and Everywhere.

I chose a floral dress code for our first dinner out at Medley—a nod to O’Keeffe’s iconic flower paintings without getting too kitschy or overly costumed. The french fries were a table-wide hit and we left feeling full and sleepy.

Friday

Friday morning arrived without a cloud in the sky. We cooked breakfast at home and loaded up the cars to Ojo Caliente, a hot spring 1.5 hours away from where we were staying. On the way, we stopped to walk the Rio Grade West Rim trail, with deep canyon views and big horn sheep. We arrived at the spa ready to soak our feet in the mineral baths, hopping from pool to pool. Properly relaxed, we made the most of a girls night in, cooking together and playing a handful of giggly bachelorette games, mezcal negronis in hand.

Saturday

On Saturday, we toured Ghost Ranch, a home of O’Keeffe and inspiration for many of her landscape paintings. Our tour guide Susan not only matched the group’s dressed-up style (her turquoise ear cuffs were a hot topic of conversation), but she answered our every gossipy question about O’Keeffe’s money, love interests, and paintings. We stopped for lunch at Cafe Sierra Negra, then headed back to the Airbnb where the bravest among us took a dip in the melted-snow creek. For dinner, I imposed a western theme on everyone, and we went to Love Apple, an iconic farm-to-table restaurant housed in a hundred-year-old chapel. We earned a few raised eyebrows for our outfits, but it was worth it for a little bit of fun.

Sunday

As our trip came to an end, we caravaned to Santa Fe, home to the closest reliable airport. We walked around town, shopping and sightseeing for a few hours before hopping on our respective flights back to real life—just a little sunburnt.

What I Packed

To thank my friends for coming, I included small goody bags stuffed with a few favorite gifts of mine—including matching linen sets from With Nothing Underneath, which we wore every day around the house. I also picked up a set of chrome coupes engraved with the phrase “girl dinner” to use for snacks, along with some luxe eye patches so we could relax together.

For our western theme day, I packed a mix of location-specific pieces so I could style myself on the fly depending on my mood and the weather. I chose a Dôen skirt, paired with an old Bode jacket for the day (this suede fringe one is similar), plus a pair of Tecovas cowboy boots.

For floral night, I wore a vintage matching set from Prada, an old Saks Potts jacket, and J.Crew heels from their 2024 collaboration with Maryam Nassir Zadeh—this pretty pink floral set is a similar current option.

For the spa, I wore a sheer sequin tunic over my Peony swimsuit and finished with my trusty Magic hat; it’s easy to pack, and great for heavy-duty sun protection.