Published July 14, 2024 · 6 min read

I’m sure you have been asked if you have any questions during interviews. A few things come to mind. Often, we think we need to impress the other party. Nevertheless, tough questions are the ones you want to ask, especially to your future boss. Over the years, I learned this the hard way.

I have worked with managers who changed my entire career for the better, and I have worked with managers who drained every bit of energy out of me. Sad but true. The difference between those two experiences was never the company. It was always the person leading the team.

We all know that switching teams or starting a new job is a significant decision. You need to understand your future manager’s leadership style and approach before signing up. You should have an idea of how they handle team dynamics, support growth, and maintain accountability. A manager shapes your daily reality far more than a job description ever will. They decide whether you grow, whether you feel safe to speak up, and whether your work actually matters.

You can even ask for a pre joining call to ensure that. Getting paid is important, but choosing the right boss might be even more so. The older I get, the more I realize that a good boss is a multiplier. A bad boss is a slow and painful tax on your life. Asking the right questions is not bold or confrontational. It is self respect. Here are some important questions to consider:

Charizard Asking Questions

1. What Are Your Team’s Ways of Working?

Purpose: Understand the team’s work methods and culture.

What to Look For: Description of work processes, collaboration tools, meeting structure, flexibility, and alignment with your preferred work style.

This is the question that reveals how your day to day life will actually feel. You are not just asking about rituals. You are asking how the team moves, communicates, and deals with pressure. A good manager will speak with clarity and honesty. A vague answer usually means the team operates reactively, and you will feel that chaos the moment you join.

2. How Do You Challenge Top Performers?

Purpose: Discover how they create opportunities for growth.

What to Look For: Examples of meaningful projects, recognition strategies, and continuous learning opportunities.

Top performers need stimulation, not supervision. If a manager cannot describe how they challenge their best people, it often means high performers leave after a year from lack of growth. The way they treat ambition tells you everything about the long term health of the engineering team.

Purpose: Understand how they handle tough decisions and protect team culture.

What to Look For: Their approach to difficult conversations, fairness in the process, and how they maintain integrity.

This is one of the most revealing questions you can ask. Firing someone is never easy, but the way a manager speaks about it tells you what they value. Do they take responsibility or do they blame? Do they talk about the support they offered or do they jump straight to punishment? Their answer will show you whether they lead with courage or with fear.

4. What Is Your Approach to Supporting Team Members Who Are Struggling?

Purpose: Gauge empathy, patience, and coaching ability.

What to Look For: Early identification of issues, willingness to help, and their personal coaching style.

Every team has people who go through difficult periods. Some managers step in early and help them get back on track. Others let the problem swell until it becomes a conflict. You want a manager who pays attention, communicates gently but clearly, and believes in bringing people forward rather than writing them off. Their answers will show you whether they build people.

5. How Do You Ensure Accountability Within the Team?

Purpose: Learn how they set expectations and create reliability.

What to Look For: Clear communication, regular feedback, and a balanced approach to responsibility.

Good managers create clarity. Everyone knows what is expected and when it matters. Bad managers avoid difficult conversations and then explode when things fall apart. Accountability should feel steady and fair, not surprising. If a manager cannot describe how they establish it, the team is probably dealing with confusion, resentment, or both.

Purpose: Understand how they grow talent and reward progress.

What to Look For: The criteria they used, real examples, and the opportunities they provided.

Promotions tell a story. They reveal what the manager values, what they reward, and whether they invest in their people. If they cannot name anyone, that is also telling. It often means the team is stagnant or there is no real path to advancement. Their explanation will show you what it actually takes to succeed under their leadership.

7. Who Are You Preparing to Take Over Your Role?

Purpose: Understand their commitment to developing leaders and ensuring continuity.

What to Look For: Evidence of mentoring future leaders, awareness of their team’s potential, and clarity about their own trajectory.

A secure manager prepares others to rise. An insecure manager hides knowledge and keeps control tightly in their hands. This question exposes which type you are dealing with. When a manager invests in successors, the team becomes stronger, more stable, and more ambitious. When they do not, the team becomes dependent and eventually fragile.

All in All

A good leader is never threatened by thoughtful questions. A defensive reaction is already an answer, and usually not the one you want to hear. If you get a negative response to these questions, do not take that job. That speaks volumes about the workplace.

Choosing a manager is choosing the environment you will grow in. It is choosing the tone of your days, the speed of your progress, and the quality of your experience. Ask boldly and listen carefully. Your future self will thank you for it. We talk about similar topics in our book, Software Engineering Handbook. Get your copy today!