Model merging has emerged as a cost-effective approach for consolidating the capabilities of multiple LLMs without retraining. However, existing merging techniques, largely based on linear parameter arithmetic or optimization, struggle when applied to Mixture-of-Experts (MoE) architectures. We identify a critical failure mode in MoE merging, termed routing breakdown, in which the merged router fails to dispatch tokens to suitable experts. Routing breakdown stems from the sensitivity of the non-linear softmax and discrete Top-k routing mechanisms to parameter perturbations from merging, a sensitivity further amplified by load-balancing constraints imposed during MoE pretraining. Because fine-tuned experts exhibit distinct specializations, even modest misrouting can cause severe performance degradation. To address this issue, we propose Hessian-Aware Router Calibration (HARC), a training-free framework that leverages second-order curvature information to realign the merged router. This approach admits a closed-form solution that can be efficiently solved using a matrix-free conjugate gradient method. Experiments on mathematical reasoning and code generation tasks show that HARC effectively mitigates routing breakdown across diverse MoE merging baselines and leads to substantial performance improvements. Our code is available at https://github.com/huangcb01/HARC.