Fine-tuning large language models often undermines their safety alignment, a problem further amplified by harmful fine-tuning attacks in which adversarial data removes safeguards and induces unsafe behaviors. We propose SPARD, a defense framework that integrates Safety-Projected Alternating optimization with Relevance-Diversity aware data selection. SPARD employs SPAG, which optimizes alternatively between utility updates and explicit safety projections with a set of safe data to enforce safety constraints. To curate safe data, we introduce a Relevance-Diversity Determinantal Point Process to select compact safe data, balancing task relevance and safety coverage. Experiments on GSM8K and OpenBookQA under four harmful fine-tuning attacks demonstrate that SPARD consistently achieves the lowest average attack success rates, substantially outperforming state-of-the-art defense methods, while maintaining high task accuracy. Code is available at https://github.com/shuhao02/SPARD.