BuddyBench introduces a privacy-constrained multi-task benchmark for pediatric social-communication personalization. Unlike existing neurodevelopmental repositories that primarily emphasize imaging, genetics, or cross-sectional clinical phenotyping, BuddyBench links drill-level learning trajectories, standardized clinical assessments, BuddyPlan self-report, and randomized-treatment endpoints within a unified benchmark schema. BuddyBench combines two cohorts: ND-03 is an observational cohort with dense drill coverage for Tasks1-2 (n = 189), and ND-02 is a randomized controlled trial cohort for Tasks3-4 (n = 86 ITT). Together, they support knowledge tracing, next-drill recommendation, clinical prediction, and causal inference, linking behavioral personalization to clinical evaluation. We additionally introduce BuddyBench-Sim, a synthetic companion dataset for reproducible evaluation. Baselines show signal across tasks while keeping pediatric clinical records protected.