Video Moment Retrieval (VMR) task requires accurately localizing temporal boundaries aligned with natural language queries, but many models suffer from a misalignment between continuous surrogate losses and non-differentiable metrics, leading to optimization stagnation during the late stages of training and trapping boundary predictions in suboptimal solutions. Although Reinforcement Learning (RL) post-training successfully optimizes localization results for large models, applying it directly to lightweight networks easily disrupts the fragile feature representations established during the supervised phase. To overcome this optimization bottleneck, we propose Gradient-Isolated Reinforcement Learning for DETR (GIRL-DETR), introducing RL post-training into a lightweight temporal localization framework for the first time. The input video and text features first establish early alignment through Cross-Modal Interaction (CMI) before entering the transformer encoder. Subsequently, a Text-Guided Gating (TGG) mechanism dynamically injects semantic priors into the queries before the transformer decoder generates candidate proposals, providing high signal-to-noise ratio inputs for temporal prediction. After the supervised training reaches convergence, the backbone network is frozen to protect the feature manifold, while the detection head directly optimizes the non-differentiable evaluation metric tIoU to enhance localization accuracy through a Three-stage Progressive Reinforcement Learning (TPRL) strategy. This approach achieves an orthogonal decoupling of state representation and metric optimization. Experiments on Charades-STA, QVHighlights, and TACoS demonstrate that GIRL-DETR effectively resolves surrogate loss degradation and achieves substantial accuracy improvements with minimal parameter updates, providing a robust new pathway for RL applications in lightweight VMR models.