Composed image retrieval (CIR) addresses the task of retrieving a target image by jointly interpreting a reference image and a modification text that specifies the intended change. Most existing methods are still built upon contrastive learning frameworks that treat the ground truth image as the only positive instance and all remaining images as negatives. This strategy inevitably introduces relevance suppression, where semantically related yet valid images are incorrectly pushed away, and semantic confusion, where different modification intents collapse into overlapping regions of the embedding space. As a result, the learned query representations often lack discriminativeness, particularly at fine-grained attribute modifications. To overcome these limitations, we propose distinctive query embeddings through learnable attribute weights and target relative negative sampling (DQE-CIR), a method designed to learn distinctive query embeddings by explicitly modeling target relative relevance during training. DQE-CIR incorporates learnable attribute weighting to emphasize distinctive visual features conditioned on the modification text, enabling more precise feature alignment between language and vision. Furthermore, we introduce target relative negative sampling, which constructs a target relative similarity distribution and selects informative negatives from a mid-zone region that excludes both easy negatives and ambiguous false negatives. This strategy enables more reliable retrieval for fine-grained attribute changes by improving query discriminativeness and reducing confusion caused by semantically similar but irrelevant candidates.