Spoken Language Models (SLMs) have emerged as a promising paradigm for speech synthesis by bypassing explicit grapheme-to-phoneme pipelines. However, their effectiveness in low-resource languages remains fundamentally limited by the scarcity of transcribed speech. In practice, synthetic data has become the primary strategy for scaling SLMs in such settings, providing reliable phonetic supervision when real data is insufficient. In this work, we show that this reliance introduces a fundamental trade-off, which we term the Stability-Expressivity Gap: while synthetic data improves phonetic accuracy, it progressively suppresses prosodic variability, ultimately leading to a collapse of expressivity (Synthetic Erosion). To bridge this gap, we propose two self-alignment frameworks. Disentanglement-Guided Self-Alignment (DGSA) recovers expressivity for complex languages by exploiting prosody-timbre separation. For regimes where authentic references are exceptionally limited, Temperature-Driven Self-Critique (TDSC) stabilizes generation through automated exploration and filtering. Our approach outperforms strong commercial systems, including ElevenLabs and Gemini Pro, and enables the first zero-shot voice cloning capability for Lao.