BEING polite in public is what makes parents proudest of their children a new poll shows.

When it comes to what mums and dads really care about exam results and sports day races fall well behind their children saying, ‘please and thank you’.

And rather than their little ones standing on a podium to receive an award at prize giving, it is watching them tell a joke for the first time which stays longest in the memory of parents.

According to a survey commissioned by children’s snack brand Once Upon a Farm, out 2,000 parents, more than half value their children saying ‘thank you’ without being prompted more than anything else.

While just under half say watching them clean the dishes at someone else’s house is another personal favourite.

Dr. Maryhan Baker, psychologist and host of podcast ‘How Not To Screw Up Your Kids’ said: ‘The findings highlight a shift in what modern families value.

‘Parents are redefining success with moments that reflect independence, empathy and confidence like your toddler confidently trying olives at a café, or your teen making you a cup of tea just because.

‘Academic and sporting achievements are wonderful, but character, kindness and connection are what endure into adulthood.’

Just shy of a quarter of parents feel pride when their children sit nicely in a restaurant, with nearly half admitting it gives them a chance to post a snap of their youngsters on social media.

Seeing your child do what is right when one of their friends is being teased and persevering at a tricky task, are all character building habits which parents like to see.

Of the characteristics parents want to see in their children kindness is at the top, followed by honesty, empathy, and independence.

Cassandra Curtis, founder of Once Upon a Farm said: ‘We see every day how food and family routines create opportunities for these small but powerful wins – from adventurous eating to sitting down together and talking. Those are the moments that really count.’